“Hysteria” and the Strange History of Vibrators

The external part of the clitoris (what we see) is just a fraction of its entire size, with around 90 percent of it laying beneath the surface. The internal structures of the clitoris extend down to either side of the vagina , which is where you’ll find the G-spot—the area stimulated by toys that curve toward the front of your body. According to Sara Kloepfer of sex and wellness brand Bellesa, nonporous materials don’t let bacteria through and are generally easy to clean.

Nicoletta Heidegger, a psychotherapist specializing in sexuality and the host/creator of the Sluts & Scholars podcast. If you’re seeking some stimulation in your rear end look no further than the Destructor Plug. If name alone doesn’t convince you the size is no joke, the measurements will.

Whether you’re looking for the best bullet vibrators or the best vibrators for couples to spice things up in the bedroom, we’ve done the hard work for you. “Wands can feel intimidating to someone who has never used a sex toy before, so I recommend this as something that’s a bit more approachable and discreet for beginners,” sex therapist Madeline Cooper, LCSW, tells SELF. Despite its size, this mini massager still has an impressive number of speeds. It’s also budget-friendly, has only one button (no need to spend time deciphering the controls) vibrators, and comes with a small—and discreet—silicone case. Wands are bigger than many other types of vibrators, which makes them amazing at radiating strong sensations across larger areas.

However, they can also be used to stimulate the clitoris or massage all over your (or your partner’s) body. Its (sometimes many) vibration speeds are often remote-controlled or app-controlled, allowing for hands-free masturbation or playtime with a partner. The control panel of a rabbit vibe can also tell you a lot about how effective and pleasurable it’ll be.

At $55, it’s half the price as the currently-unavailable Shegasm 5 Star Rabbit we previously recommended for internal/external stimulation, although it lacks the thumping mechanism that made the 5 Star Rabbit model a standout. The Sonnet is a fine toy, but our tester preferred the 5 Star Rabbit overall. The 5 Star Rabbit is also covered by a longer warranty (five years versus the Sonnet’s one). The presence of possibly toxic chemicals in sex toys has been a source of significant concern in the sex-toy-aficionado community. Sex toys are not well researched—beyond this study by the Swedish Chemicals Agency—or regulated by any consumer-safety agencies.

“The sex toy industry is valued at $29 billion, and it is expected to reach more than $50 billion within the next few years. Shoppers literally have thousands of sex toys to choose from for different sexual orientations, kinks and fetishes, specific body parts and so much more,” Kort says. It features a suction head that sucks and blows your clit, and it’s attached to a flexible vibrating arm so that you can enjoy both external and internal arousal.